Types of Unhealthy Sibling
Relationships – FIVE
Our goal is to spread awareness of family dysfunctions and make this difficult topic more approachable. We know that many of our community members are young and may be experiencing domestic trouble. If you’re in a situation where you cannot leave your dysfunctional household. Just yet we pray for your safety and wants you to know that you can receive help from professionals. Here are 5 types of unhealthy sibling relationships.
The golden child and
These types of siblings often grow up with a parent, who is either a narcissist, sociopath or a psychopath.
The golden child
The golden child is the parents favorite because they mirror their values beliefs and habits. Those parent thinks in black and white and considers this child the good one. Since the parent lacks empathy themselves, the golden child does too. They were never yelled at nor punished for treating others with the same cruelty. So, they assume it’s correct behavior. Scapegoat Unlike the golden child, the scapegoat learns to question the parents black and white thinking. Refusing to follow their illusions they may be quietly rebellious and seek perspectives other than what their parent enforces. Consequently the scapegoat is seen as the bad one in the parents eyes. The scapegoat learns to be empathetic because, whenever they challenge the parents thinking they are reprimanded and told to be more understanding. While the golden child repeats the same toxic patterns as the parent just to get along. The scapegoat tends to break them and searches for a more meaningful life after they leave the family.
The Royal brat and
the wise owl:
The royal brat is spoiled by the parents. They learn to get their way by being loud, manipulative and stubborn. The parents usually give in to their tantrums and are more concerned with pleasing them and protecting them from difficult emotions. Consequently, the royal brat never learns how to work through their impulses, anger nor sadness.
Meanwhile the wise owl is the complete opposite of the royal brat. The wise owl is mature responsible and level-headed. Since the royal brat always gets their way without having to lift a finger, The wise owl has to achieve the same results through hard work. The royal brat tries to take the easy way out by pushing the wise owl to do things for them. But, the wise owl refuses to yield. Consequently, the royal brat gives the wise owl a hard time. Whether the royal brat lacks emotional maturity, the wise owl is disciplined and reliable.
The bully and the victim:
This relationship is similar to that of a dominant parent and a submissive child. But happens in siblings instead.
The bully in this scenario often has a challenging relationship with a parent and feels like they have no control over anything. So, they learn to be a bully and take out their anger and frustrations on their sibling instead.
Usually their younger one, who becomes the victim. The bully wants to come across as tough and intimidating. So, they make the victim feel small and helpless by abusing them emotionally, verbally and or physically.
The addict & the enabler:
This codependent type of relationship is propelled by an enabler. Who acts as a caretaker for an impaired sibling. Who usually struggles with addiction or mental illness. The enabler protects and takes responsibility for their sibling. Because, they feel like their relationship. Or even their lives will fall apart if they don’t.
They often think they are looking out for them when they justify their actions. But, in reality it’s only hurting the addicts in the long run when their problem isn’t fronted.
Often the addict and enabler already have parents who play similar roles. So, they learn to mirror them.
The ghost &
the hungry child:
The ghost is someone who is emotionally distant from their whole family. In general, they don’t know how to cope with the chaos that happens every day behind closed doors. So, they fade into the background.
Meanwhile the hungry child always longs to get a little closer to the ghost. The lack love and support from the family as a whole and yearn for someone to hold on to the hungry child, Often hopes to find love from their sibling. But, in the end they’re usually left with an empty void once again.
So, the hungry child searches for love elsewhere outside their home.
Do you have a difficult relationship with your sibling? What other types of unhealthy sibling relationships do you know of? Share your thoughts with us and if you have a special topic requests you’d like us to explore next make sure to let us know in the comment section below. 🙂